Hi and Welcome to my blog!

I’m Becky and I’ve just become a Mum to Di/Di twins Charlie & Olivia who arrived in November 2020. This blog is following the twins’ journey, our struggles, lack of sleep and everything in between to hopefully help other new mums or expecting mums in the process!

I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant in mid-March 2020. A week later we went into lockdown in the UK and had to tell our family and friends via FaceTime or Zoom meetings. It was a very different pregnancy to what I expected but I can’t complain too much about working from home when the morning sickness for twins really kicked in! We told our close family and very close friends our news just before the initial 12 week scan.

We had already ordered nursery furniture including one crib, and a full buggy/car seat/travel system ready for a baby….as I like to be organised.

We arrived for our 12 week scan and one of my closest friends (who luckily knew I was pregnant, and I her) left the scan department after her 20 week scan. We were supposed to have been able to hug in any other normal situation but we of course had to keep away….but having her go through this at the same time was fab! She told me to message her as soon as we left to let her know how the scan went.

My husband waited outside in the corridor while I went into the waiting area for the scan. It was a very surreal experience and thinking back, it is actually so disappointing he couldn’t come in with me to experience that first look….and especially the very first shock!! I laid down while she put the jelly on my stomach and looked at the screen….I was worried it would be like the moment on Friends where Rachael kept losing the baby on the scan picture….but I was happy to recognise the shape of a baby straight away.

I thought, okay great there it is…..but after about a minute the lady doing my scan said ‘Okay, so there’s Baby 1…..and thissss is Baby 2. Of course my first reaction was ‘Are you being serious!?’….she absolutely was!

We had joked a lot about me having more than one baby purely because my sickness was so bad- I actually lost 8lbs in the early stages as I couldn’t keep much down. We joked it must be more than one if my sickness is so bad, and my mother-in-law had texted me joking about it the morning before the scan, so to hear it actually be true was crazy! I’m not sure if anyone else jokes about the sickness and having multiples or if it was just us but it seems we tempted fate.

I was honestly in so much shock and kind of wanted to cry but went with the awkward hysterical laughter instead. I’m sure the ladies in the scan thought I was a bit loopy but they were so amazing. I got a much needed hand squeeze when she told me and I honestly don’t think I would have held it together without that in the moment.

After the scan, and printing an extra picture with both heads on so my husband would believe me, I sat in the waiting area for them to finish my notes in my blue folder. I also opted to pay for the additional blood tests to check the baby was okay (luckily it’s the same price for two babies!) so waited to go in for my blood tests. The lady who did my scan walked past as I sat there and asked if I had popped out to tell my husband yet….I hadn’t as I wasn’t sure how to say it! She encouraged me to go out so I popped out, asked if he was sitting down (which clearly I could see he was) and if he was ready…..he looked terrified and later told me he thought I was going to say something was wrong. I said ‘There’s two, it’s twins’….he went into the same ‘awkward laugh’ mode, asked if I was being serious and I handed him the scans. He was in shock. I had to go back in for my blood tests so told him to ring his mum and speak to her to deal with his shock hah! He told me after that he didn’t believe it but the lady who did my scan popped out while he was waiting and asked if I had told him and confirmed to him it was twins!

Walking back to the car we couldn’t believe it and were still nervously laughing at each other. In our defence, it’s so much to take in when it’s unexpected. His Mum was over the moon and had said her grandmother was actually a twin….although this wasn’t something that was linked to our twins….just a coincidence. They had been born on 1st November 1920….our due date was 21st November 2020.

We got into the car and rang my parents immediately. My mum answered and we told her, she was so excited shouting my Dad to come and listen that she accidentally hung up the phone. When we called back and told my Dad we were again, all in disbelief but my parents were so so happy.

On the way home I went through ALL the emotions and was upset we had to send our single pram and travel system back….priorities apparently! My friend who we had seen coming out of her scan messaged me asking how it had gone. I rang her and said ‘Mate, its Twins’…she replied ‘F*ck off’. Will always remember that one! I called my other best friend when I got home and she hysterical laughed at me and definitely swore a few time as well. I think I swore a lot that day too! What a day that I will always remember and properly laugh at, even though I was not properly laughing at the time!